What do the lonely do at Christmas?
Watch endless days and nights of Hallmark movies while sipping on hot chocolate wishing you can have the fairytale ending, or scrolling down your timeline and disgusted by all the engagement posts wishing you were her. Being lonely during the holiday season is by far not the easiest. Trust me, I know. Being single during the holidays doesn't have to be all doom and gloom. It's possible to make it “merry and bright”.
If being single during this time has you feeling down and out; you are not alone. Sis, today we are going to change our way of thinking. Get rid of the "Bah Humbug" mood and let's declare that we are going to enjoy spending time with family, and friends and not dwell on the fact that our bae hasn't arrived yet for another year. Instead, take this time to reflect on how grateful and blessed the year has been. Find ways to nourish yourself. Use this alone time to reflect on all your accomplishments for this year. This is the most wonderful time of the year and we are going to embrace it as such.
So, instead of walking around like a scrooge, let’s focus on ways to be “merry”.
Give yourself a gift. Who doesn't love a day at the spa? I do! Instead of beating yourself up because of your relationship status, be kind to yourself. Last year I struggled with my single season. I definitely was a victim of the “no boo blues”. I felt incomplete because of the lack of companionship at holiday parties or not receiving gifts from a significant other. I decided to change my mindset and find completeness within myself. I refused to be miserable because of my singleness. Your situation will not change until you decide to shift your way of thinking. It's all in the mindset. This shift can be a powerful tool to help your mood for other feelings of loneliness that may arise in the future.
Remember that just as the seasons change, so do our relationships. Nothing remains the same. Have faith and believe that when the time is right, God will send the right person to enter into your life. Before you know it, you will forget how lonely you used to be during the holidays. Stay encouraged and be hopeful. Your holiday blues will soon come to an end!